You have the basic question and you dare to express your trouble,
Your nervousness is the surrendering to situation where you cannot fight or express your anger to it..
Your situation can not be changed by me but I have some ideas to tell you
You have the basic question and you dare to express your trouble,
We live in world where all our expectations will not be fulfilled. In the todays world, we get more chances to get angry, due to completion, injustice, betrayal, criticisms at work, home and by friends, and there are endless reasons which makes us angry. Anger arises when the other does not behave the way we expect, or other wants us to behave the way s/he wants us to behave and we are not able to / interested to / wish to / contrary to our respect
It is a common wisdom given to us from childhood, never be angry, do not show your anger, to be angry is not good.
The anger is hurting us first and then hurts the person who is target of our anger.
If we are strong we hurt other very deeply and also carry the wound within. But if we are weak, we get hurt. And we fear to express anger, still the wound within is there. So Anger expressed also hurts and anger suppressed also hurts.
The negative effect of anger on us is multifold, Physical Violence, Anatomically we get acidity ulcer and indigestion. Emotionally we get upset, concentration goes, blood pressure increase/decresses, get depressed,
Thus we are affected from all the angles, we can not afford to express or suppress . Best way is to Transform the powerful emotion in creative way.Anger is our Emotion and it is really great force, those who do not get angry are cold. Those get angry get cold after loosing the energy in anger...
Now Anger will arise and arise every day, then what to do with it...how to get rid of it...
There is a Dynamic way to do it.... every day get up early morning... or when you have some time for one hour for this only...
This exercise is divided in four parts, and has three level
Primary, 20 minutes
Secondary 40 minutes
Final 60 minutes
We start with Primary level
First part is dealing with activation of your system, dormant emotions are waken up, your system is charged,
Second part is expressing the gathered stuff out,
Third part is again charging the body
Fourth part is just silent.
First part you choose a silent room, exclusive to you only, wear loose clothing, stand relaxed, both hand by side of waist. Legs one foot apart, knees slightly bent, relaxed,
Room should not be too airy or too cold/hot,
Start breathing out with force from nose, keep mouth shut,
And continue for five minutes, in breath will be automatic, you concentrate on out breath.
Continuing up to five minutes, then come to second part
second part is just expressing your ACCUMULATED EMOTIONS, NOT ONLY ANGER BUT ALL, cry, shout, weep, shake your body out violently and wildly... with all emotions released. In beginning it may not be feeling easy or you may feel shy or afraid of family or neighbors but know that THIS IS YOUR LIFE AND YOU ARE SUFFERING, not your family, or neighbor. If they are disturbed by your sounds, you ensure that your shouts are not heard to them, your sound and voice are expressed without Sound, and just wild expressions... continue expressing for five minutes... you will have hell of time, but you have to dare and start, your life is at stake.
Third part, you jump with your soles coming down heavily on floor and you make the sound of hoo, hoo, hoo, from navel, such that it too is not heard by others if they feel disturbed...
Thus your navel will get strong and purged of negativity, weaknesses...
Jumping up down may feel painful but continue,
Then fourth part,
Be silent, stop all jumping shouting, remain standing statue, in silence. Just feel your rushing blood, heavy breathing, heart beats, and aching body, but do not move be a statue...
These twenty minutes will be an ordeal for you, it will be a total blast for you and your system will be cleaned.
This will be a challenge to your Will power to Challenge Yourself.
If you continue for a month, and feel the difference, how you feel anger, how you react and how you feel afterwards...
Now during the day time when anger arises let it arise, but you be alert of this anger and feel your breathing, what is happening to it... just be aware of breathe.
Thus you will feel the anger but anger will not be overpowering you, as your breathe will make you alert that now you are suffering body and mind. So come to relaxed breathing and your angry muscles will relax and the anger will also relax...
There is no direct way to attack enemy but thus indirectly we treat it.
in evening you can spare 20 minutes for sitting exclusively for yourself, watch your thoughts, close eyes, and feel the breathing at nose point, in out in out, sit with crossed legs, on cushion and straight spine, neck, crossed palms
This twenty minutes will give you account o